For me there has been a slight positive side to this pandemic. The years I’ve worked with different councillors who have helped me with my depression. I’ve always assumed that I would have to work with counselors near me, because I assumed everything has to be face-to-face. Then as my counsellor moved online I realised I could get a counsellor anywhere. I could find counsellor that is right for me not just near me.
As a result my new counsellor is a much better fit for me and is helping me get through my depression far more quickly.
You may feel you have to be in the same council as your counselors, but you are right you don’t have to be. You can find multiple counselors and even a counsellor in another city.
How can you find the right counsellor for you and how can you have one that is best suited to your personality? You need to sit down and make a list of who you can trust and then how you can talk to them. I have written a short list of things you can discuss with your counsellor. You will be surprised how much you can discuss about. You can even email a list of questions to your counselor, and they will write back a list of questions you may find helpful. If you feel you have to be in the same council as your counselors you can talk to your councilors online. They will be very pleased if you would be in touch.
Counselors who have helped with depression will know that you should not talk to your councilors about your depression. The councilors may be family, or they might be people you do not feel you can trust. Do your research and find people you feel comfortable talking to.
I found I was far more helped by email than I was face-to-face with my councilors. That is how I have gotten over my depression and I advise you do the same. If you feel in face-to-face contact you need to ask the councilors questions to determine if they are going to be helpful. This is how I have got through the depression years and years. I just asked questions. I trust councilors, so I just told them what I wanted. I was patient and I got what I wanted. I also realised the councilors were humans like me, some of whom were also suffering, so I treated them with humanity.
Counselors that want to help you will find that you are patient with them. You want to help them. You are not a therapist who wants to punish the person you are seeing. You just want to help them, if they are helping you. If you are seeing a councilor they will find that you are patient with them. They will find that you are helping them if you are helping them. You are not the only one they need help from.
So the councilors, who are seeing you and are not therapists, will find that you are patient with them. You trust them and they will do the same. They will find that you are patient with them and they will respect this. They will want to help you, but will not be able to help you as much as you would want. You may think you want the councilors to help you more than they want to help you. This is fine.
You also may find that you do not trust your councilors.
However, you should do this with people you trust, people you feel comfortable talking to. So you should talk to your councilors as you would talk to your friends or loved ones. It is good to have boundaries and to make sure that people know that you are not a lab rat and can take criticism. You should try and make sure your councilors know this.
You should also note that they are human and you are not. They will do the same things you do when they think it will benefit you.
When you talk to your councilors in the above manner, you will be able to keep track of what they say and do and therefore know when they are misbehaving.
